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serynIs there a place one can go to retrieve memes when one has no friends who do such things?
Some of them look fun, I particularly like the discussion ones. Where, instead of it being telling all about one's self, it's something one thinks about a relatively innocuous subject and one's friends can jump in and share their opinions.
I am, however, extremely wary of things that ask seemingly innocuous questions and generate your "go-go dancer nickname" or whatever. Name of first pet, name of street where you grew up, name of first grade teacher... those are all things that are asked for security questions in various places like banks to verify online transactions.
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I'm tired of sex scenes where it's first base, second base, third base, oral sex, then Tab A into Slot A. (I try not to read too much of the Tab A into Slot B kind. And very very little of the "rub Tab A against Tab A from the second kit.") I've read sex scenes where they skip the kissing--- which is immediately followed with some discussion about whores (I didn't know that whores don't kiss clients, so it seemed like some myth fic writers created to generate imaginary conflict.) But I haven't read any erotic fiction where they skip the breast/nipple play. I'm sure there's some M/M stuff but I admit it does nothing for me and I don't read much of it; the little I do read seems to be written by middle-aged women with too many children and they are obsessed with talking and foreplay... I don't think all women like the same erogenous activities, but breasts aren't optional and I don't understand it. I've read erotic fiction where they never go below the waist but everyone gets off. But I have NEVER read erotic fiction where a female character's breasts don't matter. Most of the stuff written in the sex scenes would leave a woman's breasts covered in bruises and I just don't understand it. For a while, ~10 years ago, it seemed like all erotica was foot-obsessed. Just about every sex scene had toe-sucking in it. I remember my friends asking me if I thought it was erotic. Lately it seems like lots of writers are into spanking and light bondage. I see so much of these things that it's stopped seeming kinky.
I'd like to see a sex scene where a woman who has had a double mastectomy could still read it and be titillated but not feel inadequate.
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I felt less than inadequate today. I taught a bunch of people with whom I share no common language knitting skills. And I sucked less at it than last time.
I also went for Japanese food at a different place. I'd stopped eating there and now I remember why. They've got truly abysmal service and the menu prices do not match the prices charged. Food was good today, but I didn't get what I ordered. I ordered several kinds of sushi and received similar items. Not like I ordered veg and received fish, but like I got mushroom instead of cucumber. That's lame. But I might go back once more since it wasn't crowded.
Some of them look fun, I particularly like the discussion ones. Where, instead of it being telling all about one's self, it's something one thinks about a relatively innocuous subject and one's friends can jump in and share their opinions.
I am, however, extremely wary of things that ask seemingly innocuous questions and generate your "go-go dancer nickname" or whatever. Name of first pet, name of street where you grew up, name of first grade teacher... those are all things that are asked for security questions in various places like banks to verify online transactions.
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I'm tired of sex scenes where it's first base, second base, third base, oral sex, then Tab A into Slot A. (I try not to read too much of the Tab A into Slot B kind. And very very little of the "rub Tab A against Tab A from the second kit.") I've read sex scenes where they skip the kissing--- which is immediately followed with some discussion about whores (I didn't know that whores don't kiss clients, so it seemed like some myth fic writers created to generate imaginary conflict.) But I haven't read any erotic fiction where they skip the breast/nipple play. I'm sure there's some M/M stuff but I admit it does nothing for me and I don't read much of it; the little I do read seems to be written by middle-aged women with too many children and they are obsessed with talking and foreplay... I don't think all women like the same erogenous activities, but breasts aren't optional and I don't understand it. I've read erotic fiction where they never go below the waist but everyone gets off. But I have NEVER read erotic fiction where a female character's breasts don't matter. Most of the stuff written in the sex scenes would leave a woman's breasts covered in bruises and I just don't understand it. For a while, ~10 years ago, it seemed like all erotica was foot-obsessed. Just about every sex scene had toe-sucking in it. I remember my friends asking me if I thought it was erotic. Lately it seems like lots of writers are into spanking and light bondage. I see so much of these things that it's stopped seeming kinky.
I'd like to see a sex scene where a woman who has had a double mastectomy could still read it and be titillated but not feel inadequate.
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I felt less than inadequate today. I taught a bunch of people with whom I share no common language knitting skills. And I sucked less at it than last time.
I also went for Japanese food at a different place. I'd stopped eating there and now I remember why. They've got truly abysmal service and the menu prices do not match the prices charged. Food was good today, but I didn't get what I ordered. I ordered several kinds of sushi and received similar items. Not like I ordered veg and received fish, but like I got mushroom instead of cucumber. That's lame. But I might go back once more since it wasn't crowded.
