Winning friends while sparing the rod.
Mar. 17th, 2010 10:12 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
seryn((The subject line makes more sense if you read all the way to the end.))
There is a giant non-fandom friending meme started byliv
http://liv.dreamwidth.org/28634.html
It's interesting and I would like more DW friends, but there are 30 screens of comments. The people all blur together (and that's just from the first page) and it's hard to pick someone to start with. Not to mention the ones whose blurbs about themselves make them obviously incompatible with my paradigm. (I promise I'm not being narrow-minded, but just thinking that's not how you make friends. "Oh I'll find someone I disagree with fundamentally and then read their stuff and see if we get along!")
Somehow I wouldn't even bother reading someone who described themselves like that. It's true. And I'm sure those of you who actually think I'm annoying whether you like me or not are glad I've become aware of it finally.
So I can either leave a comment on that post describing myself in a truthful but unattractive way, or I can treat it like a resume [please to be inserting the correct accent marks to get *rez zoo meh* sounding in your mental text-to-speech] where the truth is like rod iron in sculpture, bent until it appears aesthetically pleasing.
There is a giant non-fandom friending meme started by
livhttp://liv.dreamwidth.org/28634.html
It's interesting and I would like more DW friends, but there are 30 screens of comments. The people all blur together (and that's just from the first page) and it's hard to pick someone to start with. Not to mention the ones whose blurbs about themselves make them obviously incompatible with my paradigm. (I promise I'm not being narrow-minded, but just thinking that's not how you make friends. "Oh I'll find someone I disagree with fundamentally and then read their stuff and see if we get along!")
I'm almost 40, unemployed, formerly geekish, and really bloody irritating.
I post a lot about what I'm thinking, what I've been doing (especially when it can be encapsulized), and use this space to argue my own viewpoint without being interrupted.
A lot of the locked posts (which are about 5% of content) are locked because they are more identifying than is preferable or about money (which offends people unless you're poor, then they're just bored by the topic.) There are sometimes writing discussions or cooking discussions. I often make reference to my knitting and spinning but don't post those things here. But I try to post most days and to vary my conversation.
Somehow I wouldn't even bother reading someone who described themselves like that. It's true. And I'm sure those of you who actually think I'm annoying whether you like me or not are glad I've become aware of it finally.
So I can either leave a comment on that post describing myself in a truthful but unattractive way, or I can treat it like a resume [please to be inserting the correct accent marks to get *rez zoo meh* sounding in your mental text-to-speech] where the truth is like rod iron in sculpture, bent until it appears aesthetically pleasing.
